I’ve been seeing this doctor who is absolutely everything I want in a man (maybe he could work on his wardrobe and domestic sense but those are things I can totally help him with). He’s tall, handsome, smart, sweet, commitment-minded, adores me and tells me how beautiful I am all the time. He’s such a genuine person I feel I can totally trust him as well. However, he’s a 2nd year resident and his schedule is BANANAS!! I see him only once/month, if that, but I’m not needy and I date others so I don’t press him for time. He claims it will get better once he completes his residency but I’m thinking not. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this? Does it, in fact, get better once he starts to practice outside of his residency as a real doctor?
When I first started dating my boyfriend, he was starting his third and last year of residency. I can honestly tell you that it was hard because he didn’t have the time for me like other guys would. I didn’t know if he was serious about me or if he really was that busy. I can tell you now that the life of a resident is absolutely hectic and they really are that busy. You have to go out and occupy yourself with other things to do instead of sitting around waiting for him to call. It also helps if you know some other people who are also dating a resident and are going through the same things as you are.
It does in fact get better once he completes his residency but then again it also depends on what kind of medicine he is in and if he’s going to pursue a fellowship afterwards. I know my boyfriend’s schedule will become hectic once again when he starts his fellowship next year but we love each other and we’ll make it work. I’m sure that if you truly love him, everything will work out for the better. You just have to be patient and understanding of his schedule now because things will get better. Good luck!